Free Yourself from Your Fears: Learn How to Stop Them Running Your Life

chris_millbankThe developer of Reflective Repatterning and Mind Body Spirit presenter Chris Milbank talks about how to free yourself from your fears and stop them running your life.

Fears are of course a great thing, I applaud every time my fears of walking to near the edge of a cliff, being rude to a violent person, feeling fearful and negative about investing my savings with a fraudster or marrying a serial killer. Fears and negative thoughts and emotions save us everyday, from terrible mistakes and life threatening situations for ourselves and loved ones.

So what is fear?

Fear is a survival mechanism, yet the way our nervous system uses and stores them, can in todays high tech busy stressful world be way too in tense, they build and begin to act negatively against us. Our fears can generalise from protecting us against a fraudster to not trusting anyone, or having to protect us from making us feel bad about heights to not being able to climb a ladder use a lift or elevator or cross a bridge. Fears are particularly good in our early years we have the fear of falling and loud noises that many mammals have, yet as we grow older and we know the bang of thunder is okay when we are in our secure homes, we shouldn't have to tremble, we should fear stepping out in front of a car, but not crossing an empty road.

Is fear good or bad?

Fears can be positive and negative, but so can positive feelings of confidence. Great to be confident in public speaking and have no fear, but fear can be a driver for us to learn competence. I want the pilot of my airplane to be competent even more than confident at flying. A false confidence with a stranger can lead to nasty consequences. I don't want to be so confident that I lose my awareness. Sometimes it's good to be able to have the freedom of choice and flexibility, to jump from one opposite to the other, experience fear as a warning, but logically accept its message and then feel confident in your understanding, and of course vice versa.

Reflective Repatterning

Reflective Repatterning (known as RR) uses a special energetic hold that works all fourteen meridian energy lines that carry good and negative emotional energy. When we clean this energy of any emotion whether fear, guilt or any conflict with it's opposite we create a neutrality, a free flow to be one thing or the other that we choose. RR also teaches us reasons why the bad and negative things can be good, and the good positive things can be bad. This grows the flexibility of the brain, better enabling it to adapt.

So how do fears affect us?

Let’s say the base of any negative emotion is fear:
  • We fear we may have done someone wrong so we feel guilty or ashamed
  • We fear we will make a fool of ourselves and get anxious or embarrassed
  • We fear not being able to move on and feel trapped
  • When people get angry it's a response to a fear sometimes of being rejected not listened too misunderstood, being left out etc.
When we balance our fears as good and bad within the areas of our life we love, we allow for more logic to come through so we can have more choice. We needn't be overly kind and nice or overly stressed and aggressive. We can be somewhere in between or jump into either opposite depending what’s needed. RR gives us that choice that freedom, that flexibility, where we have been fearful and trapped in our lives. Reflective Repatterning can help you to release so much!
 Here are a few examples:
  • Fears and phobias
  • Anxiety (even severe anxiety)
  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Negative beliefs
  • Negative inner dialogue
  • Other upsetting emotions
Let us look at traumas. If somebody loves safety and security as their most favourite values, then a car accident will be more traumatic than for a person that loves danger and adventure.
  • What we love drives what we hate
  • When we love safety, we will avoid danger
  • When we love freedom, we will hate being trapped
  • When we hate dishonesty we will love honesty
  • If we hate disloyalty we will love loyalty
These opposites are like magnets with north and south poles. If the north pole is the love of freedom it will attract the south pole the hatred of being trapped. And yes, you will attract the things you emotionally don't want in your life. When we clear what we fear versus what brings us confidence, when we clear what we excessively love that makes us hate and we treat what we excessively hate, our world comes in to balance. This feel good neutrality is like a flow, when everything is just flowing and feeling real good. Many people get treated for depression but may not be treated for the resistance to joy or happiness. Yet it's obvious when we look at it, when someone says I have nothing to feel joyful or happy about, because so many things are wrong in my life; husband has left me, lost my job, my pet parrot says it hates me etc, the resistance to the good thing empowers the hatred of the bad thing and vice versa. Reflective Repatterning works at a minimum eighteen times the effectiveness of other mind emotional treatments, by working in depth with The RR Laws of Opposites.

What can it do for you?

If you are suffering from any of the above emotions, or just want to balance your emotional states, Reflective Repatterning can help you to live a freer life, one that is more balanced and in flow.   The developer of Reflective Repatterning, Chris Milbank is a highly respected and world-renowned trainer and practitioner. In light of his many experiences and studies, he believes wholeheartedly that his modalities can achieve what no other therapy can.  A truly down to earth person, Chris brings his skill and knowledge, as well as his sense of humour and genuine care for the well-being of people to his courses. Come along to Chris's two hour workshop on Monday 29th April from 3.45 - 5.45pm at the London Wellbeing Festival. Buy tickets. For the full workshop schedule visit our website. Book tickets for the festival and download the festival programme to find out who’s on, what’s on and when.