The developer of Reflective Repatterning and Mind Body Spirit presenter Chris Milbank talks about how to free yourself from your fears and stop them running your life.Fears are of course a great thing, I applaud every time my fears of walking to near the edge of a cliff, being rude to a violent person, feeling fearful and negative about investing my savings with a fraudster or marrying a serial killer. Fears and negative thoughts and emotions save us everyday, from terrible mistakes and life threatening situations for ourselves and loved ones.
So what is fear?Fear is a survival mechanism, yet the way our nervous system uses and stores them, can in todays high tech busy stressful world be way too in tense, they build and begin to act negatively against us. Our fears can generalise from protecting us against a fraudster to not trusting anyone, or having to protect us from making us feel bad about heights to not being able to climb a ladder use a lift or elevator or cross a bridge. Fears are particularly good in our early years we have the fear of falling and loud noises that many mammals have, yet as we grow older and we know the bang of thunder is okay when we are in our secure homes, we shouldn't have to tremble, we should fear stepping out in front of a car, but not crossing an empty road.
Is fear good or bad?Fears can be positive and negative, but so can positive feelings of confidence. Great to be confident in public speaking and have no fear, but fear can be a driver for us to learn competence. I want the pilot of my airplane to be competent even more than confident at flying. A false confidence with a stranger can lead to nasty consequences. I don't want to be so confident that I lose my awareness. Sometimes it's good to be able to have the freedom of choice and flexibility, to jump from one opposite to the other, experience fear as a warning, but logically accept its message and then feel confident in your understanding, and of course vice versa.
Reflective RepatterningReflective Repatterning (known as RR) uses a special energetic hold that works all fourteen meridian energy lines that carry good and negative emotional energy. When we clean this energy of any emotion whether fear, guilt or any conflict with it's opposite we create a neutrality, a free flow to be one thing or the other that we choose. RR also teaches us reasons why the bad and negative things can be good, and the good positive things can be bad. This grows the flexibility of the brain, better enabling it to adapt.
So how do fears affect us?Let’s say the base of any negative emotion is fear:
- We fear we may have done someone wrong so we feel guilty or ashamed
- We fear we will make a fool of ourselves and get anxious or embarrassed
- We fear not being able to move on and feel trapped
- When people get angry it's a response to a fear sometimes of being rejected not listened too misunderstood, being left out etc.
- Fears and phobias
- Anxiety (even severe anxiety)
- Negative beliefs
- Negative inner dialogue
- Other upsetting emotions
- What we love drives what we hate
- When we love safety, we will avoid danger
- When we love freedom, we will hate being trapped
- When we hate dishonesty we will love honesty
- If we hate disloyalty we will love loyalty